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Pamala Clift: Posted on Thursday, April 18, 2013 12:43 AM
 One of my first and a favorite topics for my philosopher discussions that I bring up every few years is "Weapons of Compensation". When you are losing a disagreement, what do you pull out of your hat to turn the tide. In other words, what is your last trump-card defense.
I like this topic because it focuses on introspection. Less arguments and more ah ha moments, when you start to recognize that a Weapon of Compensation is being used against you, it indicates you have won the argument.
Ok, lets paint a picture of an argument with a neighbor which you appear to be losing after regular sane negotiations have failed, say over a fence boundary or obnoxious pets. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Monday, April 08, 2013 9:04 AM
 Wheee! I don't have to get up to go to work. I can play all day. Your rules no longer matter to me, I will do what entertains me. You can't stop me now!
This is vacation mode. When we finally get time off from work that is not dictating our actions by someone else's decree.
This is also the characteristical mindset that I attribute to the engagement level of the Disassociative State of Being while online.
When some people come online under a different persona and anonymity and they suddenly feel FREE. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, March 30, 2013 5:45 PM
Today we had a lovely Roadside Philosopher's meeting and even with the holiday weekend had about 35 in attendance. The topic was "Our Perspectives through Time".
The assignment was to think back when you were absolutely certain something was right, to find down the line that it was false. It was suppose to be a way of laughing at ourselves and the elusive fluidity of truth.
Childhood beliefs vs adult realities & Forever Loves that didn't turn out to be forever were some of the very serious components that were shared. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Wednesday, February 27, 2013 11:28 PM
 Being online means you are either hiding behind anonymity, or your exposed.
Those who perceive their online engagements as "not real", and use it as a form of entertainment could easily target you, just to vent.
The wolfs sometimes run in packs. The trolls work hard to be insulting, demeaning, crude and very targeted. They will pick out a comment, or your picture and specifically narrow in search for your weak spot. They want a reaction.
What do you have for Armor? How secure are you in the face of derogatory comments? |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, February 16, 2013 2:17 PM
 I just finished my Roadside Philosopher group discussion this morning. Everyone played nice and it was on a hot topic, "Love and Relationships" We had close to 50 in attendance.
Online facilitation has its own methodology. Most of the time it is a disjointed rat race in open chat, or a screaming match over the other person in voice.
I have been doing this now for over six years and trying to get a successful methodology out there. I get comments & approvals from many, but no matter how many see how I do it. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Monday, February 04, 2013 12:12 PM
 When I was little, my mom told me you should get people something that you would like yourself.
That more or less worked for me with family members and those of my same gender... BUT... it totally doesn't work for giving to the opposite gender.
When you would love a nice dinner out and he would like a quiet homemade dinner in front of the TV.. how can you each get what you want? Someone is going to have to give up their desires?
Is is just for the woman that love is expressed? Why is that do you suppose? |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2013 10:55 PM
I just had to go through a recreation of theThink Tankfor the Roadside Philosophers as Rockcliffe was shifting around sims.
They gave me more space and I had a bit of fun creating in an intense two day panic'd move. I found a lovely underwater sea cave that had a treasure chest to add and threw down a meditation pillow to sit. Well a meditation pillow sitting by a treasure chest? What could be more apropos than a sign saying, "Meditate upon: For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Friday, January 11, 2013 6:12 PM
 With internet marketing there are zillions of new companies trying to sell you their services. All claiming to be the best. All have exclusive connections.
Marketing has always been my nemesis. I delete and block so many marketing emails I have a hard time believing others don't do the same.
They now charge for guarantee Twitter & Facebook connections. Are they real customers or fake numbers?
Everyone has a way for the numbers to appear MORE impressive, but the numbers are not what is getting noticed. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Tuesday, December 04, 2012 8:34 AM
In my last quarter, of my last year of college, as a Bus. Mgt. major (which at the time was considered one of the elite colleges on campus) I had a motivation class.
My motivation demonstration: The Value of Not Knowing It was my premise that people enjoy not knowing the answer. The question stays in the mind and the pondering is enjoyable.
To prove my point, I came to class in my full get up as my clown persona, and did some simple tricks. The first magic trick was a simple disconnected tassel trick in two separate sticks. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Tuesday, October 02, 2012 2:20 AM
 I came from a very Christian oriented framework. You do this; You don't do that. Follow the rules and everything will be perfect. You will be a good person.
You don't have to talk about sex cause all you need to know is in the Bible. If it is not in there, you don't need to talk about it. And if it is says something is bad, then that has to rule your life and morals forever!
Life is not like that, however. The very thing that needs to be discussed is avoided, and the bathroom of biological needs stays dirty, cause no one is suppose to go there? |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Wednesday, September 05, 2012 4:45 PM
 Like I explained in my book, you can love online. The question is, WHAT is it that you are actually in love with?
Plots that we live are real to us, virtual or biological. Just like any fiction that we believe whether a corporate, governmental, religious, or social construct. If we buy into them they are real for us.
If we recognize them as a plot or an interactive fiction, it most likely is not cheating. It is co-authoring a story-line. We can love that plot and story line and be engaged in its outcome. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Wednesday, August 29, 2012 3:24 PM
When you try something and it is off base.. Can you live with it?
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Tuesday, August 21, 2012 8:33 PM
We find someone online that seems to be a wonderful, with a powerful connection. We share time and our inner thoughts with them.
Why, when there seems nothing to prevent two people from bringing the relationship to real life, do they balk?
This was one of the questions that the search engines referred to my website, so I thought I would attempt to answer that directly.
I can think of two reasons for why someone would not wish to meet someone they care about from their online connections.
1.Online relationships are so much easier than the burden laden real life components of taking on someone else's problems. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Friday, August 17, 2012 4:28 PM
 I work in Agile & Scrum training, which is always trying to make things comfortable and productive for everyone in a software project management setting, which is a good thing.
The problem is the teams are almost all a composite of distributed teams and cross cultures. It is hard to nail down perspectives.
Why will one team member wish to get straight to work, and another team member from another country is filling air time asking silly questions about member's family? The frustration level for all team members is raised as confusion and negativity swirl. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, August 04, 2012 4:49 PM
Wow, there are a lot of questions that need to be answered before I can try an answer. "What is true love?"
First off, does the person asking the question, know what they want? If you don't know what YOU want, it doesn't matter what is being presented. So the first step in finding "True Love" is knowing what you want. (If you don't, you will go through several.."Maybe this is IT relationships")
The second step is holding that desire up against reality. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Monday, June 11, 2012 7:24 PM
I have squirmed and delayed writing this post, because I have little to offer, except what I have observed.
Most adults are dealing with online as "Not Real". Since most parents don't understand orGETFacebook, Twitter, or even instant messaging apps, it is far easier to dismiss it as invalid than having to actually figure out what is happening.
I tried to approach this dilemma in my local library by putting an announcement for a presentation. "Virtual is NOT Going Away" . |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Friday, February 17, 2012 7:25 PM
 Round 4 of the cover design. Just approved the internal design.. (*fingers crossed* on that decision.) I have been running this new version of the cover by contacts in virtual environments.
What do you think?. First impressions? Would you buy or be interested in a book with this cover?
A lot of great thoughts, a good many of them have been incorporated into this design. Some thoughts are conflicting.. color should be darker, lighter.. Get rid of the little people, get rid of the center picture... move the line. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, February 11, 2012 12:57 AM
Try it you might like it.  You know when I first saw those little animated robots that were pets or had some response to you in an interactive way I was WOW'd.
I use to watch a tv series that had a rogue electronic guy interrupt the television show and could interact.
Wouldn't it be fun to have someone who lived in your computer that could talk to you and respond whenever you needed to vent or bounce ideas around. No, I am not talking about Paper Clip cartoon tutorials from old Microsoft days. |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, February 04, 2012 9:33 PM
 The philosopher, that is my core being, hates to deal with the realities of the world's valuation method of dollars. However, that is societies currency. Is someone willing to pay money in exchange for what you have to offer.
Yet, is it indeed what our internal being desires? If handed a bunch of money, would that be what makes us happy? |
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Pamala Clift: Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2012 12:17 AM
 So my life at the moment is focused on the project of getting the book published.
Strangely they start with the Press Release first? Fine! That is just a few words. How tough can that be, I just finished a whole book?
Well apparently multiple perspectives gives it a whole new challenge.
The publisher that doesn't know the project produces a yawn, fill-in-the-blank press release. I create something more along the academic side. Still too boring!
Then a brilliant friend ranted at me for 45 min kicking things up a notch from a marketing perspective, which I then had to rewrite from what he pointed out. |
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