I meet a lot of Agile and Project Management professionals, but rarely do they think to take their business management expertise and apply it to their own life.
People seem to just be flotsom (material or refuse floating on water). Wherever the wave or current takes them they deal with it as if they have no control.
No one thinks. The day is filled with noise and demands from outside. They keep "background noise" going on all the time so they don't have to examine their own thoughts? Why is that? One of my favorite sayings is: It takes a pretty good person to be alone and find themselves in good company!
What a tragedy to come to the end of ones life having never known who you are? ...or spent time on the the things that mattered most to you.
So lets take steps to fix that. In Agile/Scrum the Product Owner makes user stories for the team to solve a situation with a program. Like, "We need to create a table with all the customer's past orders; so the customer can reference them for future purchases."
So lets make YOU the customer. First what is it you want? Most people don't know what they want because they have never THOUGHT about it. They just dream of it being all handed to them in the lottery or something.
So the first step is communication with the customer...You! Set aside time alone with no distractions and talk with yourself. It could be out loud or in your head. You could write yourself a letter or video tape your thoughts for later play back.
Remember to take in SCOPE, RESOURCES and a TIME frame. You need the user story to have a conceivable conclusion date. Example: "Walk 30 min. a day on Johnson pathway, until I can get into my black jeans." That user story terminates when you successfully get into your black jeans.
Now if you're a size 24 and your jeans are 8, that is a timeframe and scope doomed to fail. Make your user stories no more than 3 month personal sprints. In business it is two weeks, which would be more toward the ideal. We all need to have successes. It leads to more confidence and comfort when taking the next sprint.
"I want world peace." is not a desire that is within your power, nor something that you will eventually be able to check off. So that is not a good user story.
Start with three things that you want.
Say you want a new job. Well if you make that your user story, you're doomed. These need to be action steps that can be checked off and fully within your power, so the user story would be more appropriately stated this way. "I will rewrite my resume and submit it to three positions I desire before the end of the month, so that I can feel satisfied I am working toward a better life."
No one can guarantee success outside of your efforts, but your efforts should be stated in a way you will be able to feel success.
Life is a journey and persistence says you have never failed till you quit. If nothing changes and you don't get a new job. You can create a new user story that says, "I am going to join the Rotary Club and make 3 new contacts so I can start networking toward a better job."
There is no failure. There are just steps toward success, some are backwards, around mountains, underwater, and delayed but the maze of reality is an adventure to be enjoyed.
Find out who you are and then make this exercise of breathing-in-&-out one that delights you every morning.
Good luck. Hugs, Pam